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Here is the first installment of EndtheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World, followed by a few short items.
Introduction
I was wrong.
In October 2002, when EndTheMadness went live, I believed that changing the shidduch world was simply a matter of explaining to people the true nature of the problem and outlining the correct approach. Granted, many people would disagree with these ideas and dismiss them out of hand, but that didn’t matter. The many people who would agree would be excited by this campaign and the refreshing voice of sanity it offered. They would find the courage to act according to principles they always believed in and encourage others to do the same.
Before long the superiority of this approach would become evident, motivating others on the fence or with less courage to join. Over time even those who initially disagreed with ETM would be forced to acknowledge that something special was going on that simply could not be ignored. The more open-minded of these people would break away from their former, failed ideas and embrace this better way.
In a matter of months or just a few years, the entire face of the shidduch world would change; ETM’s approach would become the mainstream, widely preferred way. People would wonder why they ever approached shidduchim any other way. Longstanding problems in the community would finally be alleviated, and youngsters would once again look forward to the age of dating and marriage with optimism and excitement, not fear and dread.
It was a beautiful vision — and still is — but I was wrong. I underestimated the power of fear and inertia that gripped the community. I overlooked the “stiff-necked nation” that we are and counted too much on our being a “wise and understanding nation.” I failed to fully appreciate that even if I could win the minds and hearts of many people, something deep inside the psyche of our people would prevent them from acting in even the smallest of ways. Nachshon ben Aminadav is still the exception, not the rule.
The Orthodox Jewish world is naturally resistant to change of any kind, good or bad. We are suspicious of anything that we are not familiar with as being a mortal threat to our very soul and the future of our people. This comes mainly from two sources. The Torah and its laws are extremely nuanced and must be studied with the greatest of care and attention to detail. We are exhorted to be “patient in judgment” because any slight factor can influence the proper interpretation. Consequently, our minds have been trained through Torah study to be deliberate, and this makes it extremely difficult to change something that has already taken root in the community. When there is any doubt, we will stay with the status quo.
The other reason why we are naturally resistant to change comes from many generations of experience. Attempted changes and “improvements” to the accepted way of doing things have often been sinister attempts to undercut our teachings and traditions.
The problem, of course, is twofold. First, sometimes change is necessary, and is not only fully in line with the Torah but required to uphold it or to rectify a deviation from it. Second, change happens whether we like it or not, whether we want it to or not, and whether we choose to recognize it or not. If our stance on change is that it is almost invariably a bad deal and should be rejected, the only changes that will happen—and they will happen—will be bad ones. Good changes happen with foresight, effort, and positive action. Bad changes can happen entirely on their own.
The shidduch world has undergone many changes in recent times, and they have been very bad ones. The specifics of these changes, the reasons for them, and the negative impact they have had will form the greater portion of the first part of this book. These changes have taken on a life of their own and will continue to evolve in a negative way unless the community summons the drive to break out of this mess and change for the better.
Changing for the better is very easy. Summoning the drive to make these changes is a great challenge. That’s where I was wrong. I thought the latter would come naturally. But at least the changing itself is not as onerous as some might fear.
What will it take to summon this drive for positive change? Only one thing will do it: desperation.
Chances are that you are already somewhat familiar with EndTheMadness and believe at least that it has something important to offer. Chances are also that you have done nothing to promote this and currently have no intention of ever doing so. That’s because you’re a stiff-necked Jew who is afraid of change and the consequences of promoting change among others who are resistant to it. That’s okay, I still love you. But I hope you recognize that there is something tragically defective with this behavior, and when it is widespread across the community it creates dysfunction.
The only way you will overcome this impediment is if you are absolutely desperate. You have to be brought to believe that there is simply no other way, that not changing is guaranteed to fail with horrific consequences. As long as you hold out any small hope that “things aren’t so bad,” or that “it seems to work for many people,” or that “we just need to make some minor changes,” or that “the situation is under control and in good hands,” or any other such rationalization, then you are not yet desperate and will not act.
Simply put, my goal in the first part of this book is to make you despair. Then you will embrace the second part of the book, which will outline the Torah-true approach that addresses the heart of the problems. If enough people in our community utterly despair of any hope with the current “shidduch system,” then the dominoes can begin to fall and the beautiful vision of a better way will become reality in our time.
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Just because the richest and most powerful people in your country are pathological liars who were/are involved in a worldwide Satanic pedophilia ring doesn’t mean you shouldn’t believe them about everything else and trust them to keep you healthy and safe. Don’t be ridiculous!
You should take all their vaccines, join their armies and just follow orders, adhere to all their safety recommendations, believe all their promises, and mock anyone who believes they would conspire on large-scale evil. They are making America great again, bringing the redemption, bringing world peace, saving the planet, and planning a better life for everyone.
Well, almost everyone. Just not a few unfortunate children. But you’re in good hands.
From Arutz Sheva:
State Attorney Amit Isman has instructed police, at the last moment, to add the charge of “assisting the enemy in wartime” to the list of suspected offenses against Bezalel Zini and two additional soldiers, who are implicated in a case involving the smuggling of cigarettes into the Gaza Strip during the war.
The offense of assisting the enemy in wartime is considered among the most severe in Israel’s statute book, carrying a possible penalty of death or life imprisonment.
Meanwhile, the regime supplies the enemy with everything. But they don’t get prosecuted; they get raises and promotions.
And in totally unrelated news:
Years ago I suggested women might look to marry men who were old, rich, and recently took Covid shots. Just saying.
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