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Here is the first installment of EndtheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World, followed by a few short items.
Introduction
I was wrong.
In October 2002, when EndTheMadness went live, I believed that changing the shidduch world was simply a matter of explaining to people the true nature of the problem and outlining the correct approach. Granted, many people would disagree with these ideas and dismiss them out of hand, but that didn’t matter. The many people who would agree would be excited by this campaign and the refreshing voice of sanity it offered. They would find the courage to act according to principles they always believed in and encourage others to do the same.
Before long the superiority of this approach would become evident, motivating others on the fence or with less courage to join. Over time even those who initially disagreed with ETM would be forced to acknowledge that something special was going on that simply could not be ignored. The more open-minded of these people would break away from their former, failed ideas and embrace this better way.
In a matter of months or just a few years, the entire face of the shidduch world would change; ETM’s approach would become the mainstream, widely preferred way. People would wonder why they ever approached shidduchim any other way. Longstanding problems in the community would finally be alleviated, and youngsters would once again look forward to the age of dating and marriage with optimism and excitement, not fear and dread.
It was a beautiful vision — and still is — but I was wrong. I underestimated the power of fear and inertia that gripped the community. I overlooked the “stiff-necked nation” that we are and counted too much on our being a “wise and understanding nation.” I failed to fully appreciate that even if I could win the minds and hearts of many people, something deep inside the psyche of our people would prevent them from acting in even the smallest of ways. Nachshon ben Aminadav is still the exception, not the rule.
The Orthodox Jewish world is naturally resistant to change of any kind, good or bad. We are suspicious of anything that we are not familiar with as being a mortal threat to our very soul and the future of our people. This comes mainly from two sources. The Torah and its laws are extremely nuanced and must be studied with the greatest of care and attention to detail. We are exhorted to be “patient in judgment” because any slight factor can influence the proper interpretation. Consequently, our minds have been trained through Torah study to be deliberate, and this makes it extremely difficult to change something that has already taken root in the community. When there is any doubt, we will stay with the status quo.
The other reason why we are naturally resistant to change comes from many generations of experience. Attempted changes and “improvements” to the accepted way of doing things have often been sinister attempts to undercut our teachings and traditions.
The problem, of course, is twofold. First, sometimes change is necessary, and is not only fully in line with the Torah but required to uphold it or to rectify a deviation from it. Second, change happens whether we like it or not, whether we want it to or not, and whether we choose to recognize it or not. If our stance on change is that it is almost invariably a bad deal and should be rejected, the only changes that will happen—and they will happen—will be bad ones. Good changes happen with foresight, effort, and positive action. Bad changes can happen entirely on their own.
The shidduch world has undergone many changes in recent times, and they have been very bad ones. The specifics of these changes, the reasons for them, and the negative impact they have had will form the greater portion of the first part of this book. These changes have taken on a life of their own and will continue to evolve in a negative way unless the community summons the drive to break out of this mess and change for the better.
Changing for the better is very easy. Summoning the drive to make these changes is a great challenge. That’s where I was wrong. I thought the latter would come naturally. But at least the changing itself is not as onerous as some might fear.
What will it take to summon this drive for positive change? Only one thing will do it: desperation.
Chances are that you are already somewhat familiar with EndTheMadness and believe at least that it has something important to offer. Chances are also that you have done nothing to promote this and currently have no intention of ever doing so. That’s because you’re a stiff-necked Jew who is afraid of change and the consequences of promoting change among others who are resistant to it. That’s okay, I still love you. But I hope you recognize that there is something tragically defective with this behavior, and when it is widespread across the community it creates dysfunction.
The only way you will overcome this impediment is if you are absolutely desperate. You have to be brought to believe that there is simply no other way, that not changing is guaranteed to fail with horrific consequences. As long as you hold out any small hope that “things aren’t so bad,” or that “it seems to work for many people,” or that “we just need to make some minor changes,” or that “the situation is under control and in good hands,” or any other such rationalization, then you are not yet desperate and will not act.
Simply put, my goal in the first part of this book is to make you despair. Then you will embrace the second part of the book, which will outline the Torah-true approach that addresses the heart of the problems. If enough people in our community utterly despair of any hope with the current “shidduch system,” then the dominoes can begin to fall and the beautiful vision of a better way will become reality in our time.
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Just because the richest and most powerful people in your country are pathological liars who were/are involved in a worldwide Satanic pedophilia ring doesn’t mean you shouldn’t believe them about everything else and trust them to keep you healthy and safe. Don’t be ridiculous!
You should take all their vaccines, join their armies and just follow orders, adhere to all their safety recommendations, believe all their promises, and mock anyone who believes they would conspire on large-scale evil. They are making America great again, bringing the redemption, bringing world peace, saving the planet, and planning a better life for everyone.
Well, almost everyone. Just not a few unfortunate children. But you’re in good hands.
From Arutz Sheva:
State Attorney Amit Isman has instructed police, at the last moment, to add the charge of “assisting the enemy in wartime” to the list of suspected offenses against Bezalel Zini and two additional soldiers, who are implicated in a case involving the smuggling of cigarettes into the Gaza Strip during the war.
The offense of assisting the enemy in wartime is considered among the most severe in Israel’s statute book, carrying a possible penalty of death or life imprisonment.
Meanwhile, the regime supplies the enemy with everything. But they don’t get prosecuted; they get raises and promotions.
And in totally unrelated news:
Years ago I suggested women might look to marry men who were old, rich, and recently took Covid shots. Just saying.
From museums to maps to Wikipedia, Jewish history is being rewritten, and silence is allowing falsehood to harden into fact.
In December, the Royal Ontario Museum made a quiet but telling change to its labeling system. Ancient artifacts from Judea, the historical Jewish kingdom that existed centuries before the Common Era, are now described as "Palestinian." The switch is more than a curatorial adjustment. It's historical revisionism, and it's part of a broader pattern of erasing Jewish identity and Jewish connections to the past.
Soviet Erasure and the Universalization of Jewish Death
This isn't the first time such erasure has happened. During the Soviet era, the USSR deliberately obscured the specific targeting of Jews during the Holocaust. While millions of Soviets died in what they called the Great Patriotic War, the regime refused to acknowledge that Jews were singled out for extermination by the Nazis. At Babyn Yar, where nearly 34,000 Jews were murdered in two days, the Soviet memorial made no mention of Jewish victims. The suffering was universalized, the identity erased. It took decades before the Jewish dimension of the tragedy was officially recognized.
Teaching Children a Map Without Israel
The pattern continues today in different forms. Encyclopedia Britannica, a reference work trusted by generations of students and educators, removed Israel from maps in its Britannica Kids platform, labeling the entire area "Palestine" instead. This wasn't a footnote or a contested historical interpretation. It was a contemporary map of the Middle East, teaching children that a sovereign nation recognized by the United Nations and most of the world's countries simply doesn't exist. (Today it was announced that Encyclopedia Britannica has amended its website for kids following a complaint from UK Lawyers for Israel.)
The message to young readers is clear: Israel's presence is erasable, its existence negotiable. More than that it seems to fully buy into the eliminationist call to cleanse Israel of Jews “from the River (Jordan) to the (Mediterranean) Sea.”
Removing Jews from Public Memory
In Dublin there was a recent attempt to rename a park honoring Chaim Herzog, who served as Israel's sixth president. Herzog was born in Belfast, and his father was the Chief Rabbi of Ireland. His connection to Ireland was deep and personal. Yet his legacy became contested not because of who he was, but because of what he represented. The effort to strip his name from the park was about denying Jewish historical figures their place in public memory when their stories are intertwined with Israel.
Destroying the Physical Evidence of Jewish History
Then there's the physical destruction of Jewish heritage. The Palestinian Authority has engaged in what can be called archaeological terrorism, deliberately destroying remnants of ancient Jewish sites. Near Shechem, the altar traditionally associated with Joshua was damaged in an apparent attempt to erase evidence of Jewish presence in the land. At Joseph's Tomb, repeated vandalism and arson have occurred. These are coordinated efforts to eliminate the physical proof of Jewish history in places where that history is inconvenient to a political narrative.
Wikipedia and the Digital Rewriting of the Past
Perhaps the most insidious form of this erasure happens online, where history is supposedly democratized and accessible to all. Wikipedia, which positions itself as a neutral source of information, has become a battleground. Entries related to Jewish history, the Temple Mount, ancient Judea, and the broader Jewish connection to the Land of Israel have been systematically rewritten. Pro-Palestinian editors work to decouple Jewish history from the land, replace established historical consensus with fringe theories, and present opinion as fact.
The result is a narrative that lionizes the Arab and Palestinian perspective while erasing or marginalizing the Jewish one. For many people, especially younger generations who rely on Wikipedia as a primary source, this rewritten history becomes the only history they know.
Why Jewish Erasure Is Uniquely Tolerated
What ties all these examples together is the uncomfortable reality that erasing Jewish identity is often seen as acceptable, even necessary, in service of other goals. Whether it's Soviet ideology that couldn't accommodate Jewish particularity, educational publishers that can't show Israel on a map, Irish politics that couldn't tolerate association with Israel, Palestinian nationalism that requires the land to have always been exclusively Arab, progressive politics that views Jewish success as problematic, or online activism that treats Jewish historical claims as colonialism, the pattern is the same. Jewish history is rewritten, minimized, or eliminated.
The Cost of Letting Lies Stand
The consequences are real. When museums mislabel artifacts, they teach falsehoods. When educational platforms erase countries, they shape how children understand the world. When memorials omit Jewish victims, they distort history. When holy sites are destroyed, the evidence of Jewish civilization disappears. When the contributions of Jewish individuals are ignored, their stories are lost. When Wikipedia rewrites the past, millions absorb propaganda as truth.
Jewish history and Jewish identity deserve the same respect and accuracy afforded to others. These facts can coexist with other facts, including the painful realities of Palestinian displacement and suffering. History is complex and honesty requires holding multiple truths at once. But complexity is not an excuse for erasure. You cannot build a just future on a foundation of lies about the past.
This concerted erasure will continue as long as it's tolerated. Silence is complicity, and anyone who claims to value truth must confront and defeat the deliberate rewriting of Jewish history.
https://aish.com/the-systematic-erasure-of-jewish-history/?src=ac
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Readers Respond:
This is for the troll that was deleted while I was writing my reply to her:
But hey, don't let a few pesky things called 'facts' get in your way!
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It looks like the world likes the Nazi ( Y"S) propaganda that Joseph Gobbels ( Y"S) the propaganda minister of Nazi ( Y"S) Germany used, and said" if you tell a lie lots of times people will think it is the truth" and what this article says proves the point, and sadly some gullible and ignorant people don't know the truth, unfortunately not everyone learns history like the religious Jewish people do, and I heard they might of dropped history in schools, it is important to teach the truth or else, the lies and falsehoods will take over, we must sue or do something to stop this erasure, this must be paid by Muslim oil and gold money, to better to steal the identity of the Jewish people, legally it is called identity theft, according to the why I see it,
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The Jewish American Society for Historic Preservation, https://www.jewish-american-society-for-historic-preservation.org/, is the only organization in the world that is actively creating, placing, and preserving Jewish memory. To date, they have completed Jewish-themed historical markers and projects in 44 States and in nine countries. Annually, over 7,000,000 people see and benefit from one of their efforts. JASHP is a small organization with a very big footprint. To their chagrin, they have been and are ignored by mainstream Jewish organizations. A fact they disregard. The mission to create, reaffirm, and tell the story of the Jewish people is paramount.
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In Poland the Polish government are trying to whitewashing their involvement in the Holocaust, you can go to jail if you mention that Poland had any involvement in the Holocaust, so the Muslims are trying to erase Jews and Kewish history, when artifacts are found in Israel the Muslims in Israel try to destroy the evidence the Jews were the inherited of the land
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These erasures also deprive future generations of real history. History should not be written by the winners. The US is about to celebrate 250 years since the Declaration of Independence. Our children have the right to know about the events leading up to the war and the participation of people other than white men who fought on both sides. The same is true of Jewish history. If it were not horrifying, I would laugh at the idiots who chant “from the river to the sea” but don’t know which bodies of water are referenced.
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The large big-pocketed jewish organizations (the ADL, AJC, the federations, etc ) have forfeited any claim to Jewish support or the right to claim to speak for Jewish interests, as they are silent and/or impotent whenever issues such as this arise. They have been missing in action for decades. Don't give them a penny! Call them out!
A very 2026 timely presentation:
Rabbi Wein - WEEKLY PARSHA FROM THE DESTINY ARCHIVES
Yitro 5769/2009
The Torah teaches us important lessons about wealth and money in this week’s parsha. In fact, many of the Ten Commandments deal directly or indirectly with money and wealth. The commandment about the observance of the Sabbath teaches us that money is not nearly everything in life.
The drive for wealth and the necessity of making a living in difficult times drove the immigrant generation in the United States, which was overwhelmingly traditional, to work on the Sabbath. This has inevitably led to the great and tragic assimilation of a great many of Americans of Jewish descent and to a wave of crippling intermarriages. There are exceptions to this rule, but generally it is true.
Those who discarded the Sabbath in favor of wealth and seeming physical comfort are the unfortunate and unintentional progenitors of a generation of children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren who are no longer Jewish in any sense of the word.
Wealth and money are necessary parts of everyone’s life. But the Sabbath trumps them – it is the most important element of Jewish life and the one guarantee of Jewish success and survival. A more direct view on the problem of money and wealth lies in the commandment not to covet.
Coveting the belongings, the possessions, or the spouse of another is one of the prohibitions of the Ten Commandments. One could say it lies at the root of many of the other commandments. One cannot understand the commandment not to kill others and not to steal from them only through the prism of the commandment not to covet what belongs to someone else. It is as simple as that.
Stealing comes in many forms and shapes and circumstances. From misleading advertising to Bernard Madoff, stealing is pretty much rife in the world. The rabbis of the Talmud stated that most people eventually are found guilty of having stolen something in their lives. The drive to acquire more for one’s own self, to be richer and apparently more financially secure, drives the person to steal in a myriad ways.
The drive for wealth forces moral and eventually legal compromises with the pure conscience that the Torah wished us to possess. The halacha even possesses within it the concept of stealing someone else’s mind and intent. One is not allowed to mislead other people in order to obtain financial reward for one’s self. I knew a good person who, while selling his home, nevertheless informed the potential buyer of all of the hidden defects that existed in the house. Kosher money is harder to come by than is kosher food.
The drive for wealth, if left unchecked and untamed, can also eventually lead to murder. Many a murder has occurred in human life because of money. King Solomon stated that money can answer all problems, but nevertheless he was forced to admit in his own life that he was not exactly accurate in that assessment. It can answer many problems, but it is not all powerful.
All money is fungible and impermanent. Don’t take my word for it; just look around at our current world.
Shabat Shalom
Rabbi Berel Wein
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ME NOTE:
The terms "fungible" and "impermanent" appear in distinct contexts but intersect heavily in decentralized finance (DeFi), specifically regarding liquidity provision and asset valuation.
Here is a breakdown of the terms and their relationship:
1. Fungible (Interchangeable)
2. Impermanent (Temporary/Changing)
3. The Intersection: Fungible & Impermanent
In short: Fungible tokens are deposited to provide liquidity, but they are subject to impermanent losses caused by market price fluctuations.
We will have a deep dive (no pun intended) into the world of waste purification. Israel is a global leader in water research and technology.
Next, we will learn about the spiritual and cultural aspects of the community.
We are invited to the Hesder yeshiva of Rishon Lezion for a meeting with the Rosh yeshiva.
We shall lunch together with the wonderful young scholar- warriors.
Finally, we will enjoy a guided tour of the Rishon Lezion history museum, which tells the dramatic story of the historic "First Aliyah" in the 1880s.
Rishon Lezion was the first town established by this generation of pioneers.
We will delve into the amazing story
Depart from the Inbal hotel at 8:30
Return approx 6:00
300 shekels, including all entrance fees and lunch
A visit to our youngest and oldest pioneers
Tuesday, March 10
Today, we will be traveling to the fringe areas of Gush Etzion and Havron.
Will Jewish presence in these areas be secured and expanded or be overtaken by Arabs?
A handful of young people believed it must remain Jewish and so dropped everything and "took to the hills."
Freezing winds blow away their tents; Arabs rob, pillage, and attack.
After repeated forced expulsions, they always return to rebuild.
Jewish history has never witnessed this.
In the future, scholars will try to understand where and how this tiny group was nurtured; how they determined the map and future of Israel.
After visiting the hilltops, we will see the holy city of Hebron where we will;
Pray at the Tombs of our Patriarchs and Matriarchs.
Visit with a pioneer who has recently redeemed a crumbling Arab house, expanding the Jewish presence in the holy city.
We will have lunch in the only Jewish eatery in Hevron. (You may bring your own food.)
Depart at 8:30 from the Inbal hotel
Return about 5:00
200 shekels
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